A client of mine recently shared that the information I provided helped her finally open her eyes to the reality of a relationship she had years ago. Despite the fact that this person had made her life a living nightmare, he still held a special place in her heart.
It’s important to be aware that, according to international studies, one in every 14 people exhibits traits of the Dark Triad. This means we’ve all encountered them, and we likely will again. Being deceived, enchanted, or caught in their web doesn’t necessarily mean you’re weak or damaged.
The best defence is knowledge — so read up, educate yourself. The more you know, the better equipped you’ll be to spot the warning signs, protect yourself, and help others do the same. Also, seek out relationships with people who exhibit traits that are the opposite of those found in Dark Triad personalities.
I’m sharing an article by Arthur Brooks that explores this topic in depth. (For those who aren’t fluent in English, even a rough translation will be enough to grasp the essential points — and I highly recommend it.)
“Maybe it was a charming suitor, a charismatic colleague, or a dazzling new friend. You were drawn in at first, but before long, you began noticing behaviours that made you uneasy.”