The quality of our relationships has a profound impact on our mental and physical well-being, which is why it’s essential to approach them mindfully from the very beginning.
First and foremost, it’s important to know yourself — to understand where you are in life, what you truly want, and why. It’s equally important to recognise what needs to change or evolve in order to create the relationship you envision — otherwise, it remains just a fantasy.
The second step is becoming aware that, when we enter someone’s life, we also take on a degree of responsibility for them. What we are and what we do inevitably influences the other person.
You need to be emotionally mature and evolved in order to have relationships that are fulfilling and healthy.
Finally, when a relationship is built on solid foundations and shared values and principles, always remember to:
- Never take your partner for granted. Appreciate them daily — for who they are, for being by your side, for what they bring to your life.
- Cherish beautiful memories and create new ones. Remind yourselves why you fell in love and do romantic things together. The flame needs to be fed.
- Always respect each other, even during disagreements. Everyone argues — but arguments can be resolved if respect and mutual regard are maintained, and if both partners engage constructively rather than competitively.
- COMMUNICATE! This is, in my experience, the biggest issue couples face. Talk about yourselves, your thoughts, your desires. Share your plans. Speak when you’re both open and receptive — don’t suppress your feelings. Don’t just talk about work or the children — talk about you and make sure the “Us” stays strong.